Note from Gin: Barbara Mudd is a member of the Delay, Don't Deny: Intermittent Fasting Support community on Facebook. Barbara is brilliant when it comes to encouraging others, and we can't get enough of her wisdom in the group. Now, with no further ado, let's hear from Barbara!
-------------------- We understand where you’re coming from. We lived there too. The constant measuring. The counting of calories. Obsessing over macros. Dissecting recipes. Analyzing labels. The fervent journaling. The stress. The cheating. Feeling like a failure. Self-loathing. Binging. Despair. Building up the strength to TRY it again. SO STRESSFUL. And that was your LIFE. Your insulin was out of whack, your cortisol was through the roof, but your weight was steady as a rock. Yep. Its enough to make you justifiably nuts. THEN you end up in the DDD group. And it’s different. Everyone’s hanging loose, laughing, evidently shrinking away as they speak, posting pics of food you haven’t allowed yourself to eat since 1972, and they’re telling you to CHILL. Be at peace. WTH?? And maybe you even forgot how. How can you relax?? What if you eat too many calories and gain 18,000 pounds? What if you eat too few and go into (gasp) starvation mode? What if you don’t eat enough protein and your muscles start wasting…? What if you eat too much fat and have to go directly to jail, do not pass GO, and do not collect $200? What if your window is too long? What if its too short? What if you just don’t like black coffee, dammit? What if you get (double gasp) HANGRY???? What if ….what if….what if….. ??? Its enough to KEEP you nuts. And it will if you let it. But here’s a thought: What if all that worrying, attention, obsessing is a BIG part of the problem? **What if us trying to micromanage what is supposed to be an easy, natural process, is the biggest reason for its very malfunction?** Not just because it keeps your cortisol elevated which is going to make it harder to lose weight….but because it is literally counter-productive. People were of normal sizes until the government (don’t get me started on snack food and pharmaceutical lobbyists) started stepping in and telling everyone HOW and WHAT to eat. People were healthier then. Stronger. Less food obsessed. More in tune with their bodies. I want to be like them. I have lost 55 pounds in 5 months and I truly believe that the biggest part of WHY is that I made the decision to do this and RELAX; to relinquish control back to my body. I keep it loose and easy peazy. I follow only one simple principle: I fast clean until I decide to eat. That's IT. My decision to eat is dictated by the events in my life. If it’s a regular day, I eat once around noon. If there’s a party, celebration, special occasion—then there’s no restrictions, I simply enjoy the event. Guilt has no seat at my table. I don’t count hours. Couldn’t care less if I fasted 22 hours yesterday and only 20 today. I don’t watch a clock and white knuckle it 30 more minutes until my window opens. My body unmistakably TELLS me when my window is open; it’s when my thoughts suddenly turn strongly to food. I don’t count calories. I truly don’t believe that they have much to do with weight loss as evidenced by my own journey. I eat until my body tells me it’s had enough. Some days that seems to be a lot. Sometimes, its ridiculously little. That’s OK. I don’t count macros and dictate to my body how much of what its going to have. Who am I to decide that? It has different requirements, different days. I have NO idea what my body is doing that day and what it needs--- it could be healing, it could be rebuilding, it could be eliminating unwanted structures, it could be breaking down a tumor…. I let my body tell me what it NEEDS and I feed it accordingly. Adopting that one simple principle has set me free from food obsession and endless hours of guilt and uncertainty and worry. It’s taken huge loads off my mind. It has unbowed my shoulders and straightened my back with relief from that heavy load of erroneous Western Medicine Guideline data that led me to obesity in the first place. I am finding balance in life from refusing to micromanage my body any longer. My body is in charge of fuel regulation now. I can already tell you that it’s doing a MUCH better job of it than I ever did. I should have retired that position LONG ago. So please, consider stepping out in trust. I KNOW, you’ve been mislead, so many times before…..but this isn’t a diet. There are no supplements. We’re not trying to sell you a damn thing. These aren’t nutritional guidelines. We won't make you get a club tattoo. We have no ulterior motives. <3 This is an invitation to initiate the healing process that will bring you back into alignment with your body, and will hopefully lead to your decision to Get Out Of Your Body’s Way and let it lead its OWN fuel regulatory process. <3 They say “misery loves company”. That may be true. I don’t know. But Peace and Freedom definitely love company and WE INVITE YOU TO JOIN US. <3
25 Comments
Piper
10/2/2017 01:14:26 pm
🤗🤗🤗☕️☕️☕️🍩🍩
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Daphnia Johnson
10/2/2017 01:45:34 pm
Well said Barbie!! You are my inspiration girlfriend. ❤
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Sherri Lloyd
10/2/2017 02:10:19 pm
Love this. The inspiring truth we all need to move forward with food freedom.
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Trish Hibberd
10/2/2017 02:11:08 pm
Thank you so much Barbara for your very insightful words. As I read about your struggle to lose weight over the years, I too identified strongly with the exhausting struggle throughout my life to lose weight.
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Candice Phelps
10/2/2017 02:12:05 pm
Thank you Barbara! You know exactly just the right words that speaks volumes to me.
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Karen
10/2/2017 02:19:39 pm
❤️ ❤️
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Colleen
10/2/2017 02:39:45 pm
Brilliant, thank you Barbara!
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cyndi hoy
10/2/2017 02:42:10 pm
What an inspiring read!!
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Debbi fitzpatrick
10/2/2017 03:14:35 pm
Speechless :)
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Lyn Huston
10/2/2017 06:41:07 pm
Perfectly said, as always, Barbara. ❤️
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Maureen Stewart-Mooney
10/2/2017 06:49:40 pm
Thank you for your eloquent observations. You seemed to have developed a lot of self trust.
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Liseanne Roy
10/3/2017 02:45:07 am
Wonderfully put!
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Rosalind Donovan
10/3/2017 03:27:08 am
This is perfect Barb! Thanks for you insight, You put this in perfect perspective for anyone still on the fence!
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Beth Welsh
10/3/2017 05:09:37 am
Words that spoke to me, thank you.
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Michelle Reeb
10/3/2017 06:10:06 am
That was a pleasure to read. Thank you
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Cathy Alty
10/3/2017 06:01:15 pm
Beautifully said. I love this and you have expressed it perfectly. It's really like breathing. If you try to control it you'll pass out! But when you trust your body and trust it does know best and trust your mind to correctly hear what your body is saying, it's a beautiful thing. I am so much calmer and at peace when I'm not obsessing about food.
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Barbara Turner
10/3/2017 06:24:31 pm
Thank you for telling it like it is! Just pay attention to what our bodies are telling us, and we will get to our natural weight! I have struggled with this during the last few months, but am ready to get back on course!
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10/5/2017 07:51:15 pm
So inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story with this way of life. #loveit!
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Michelle Guadarrama
10/6/2017 07:14:30 am
I’m 67 and I’ve been worried about weight and dieting for 57 of those. I’m at a point in my life where I was to Simplify And MINIMIZE. I’m tired of worrying and second guessing myself. This says it all and no words can express my gratitude for finally seeing the light! Thank you Gin and Barbara!
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Nosi
10/8/2017 02:08:28 pm
Tjo WELL said dearest. At first it was as if you are talking about me. I hear you, I hear you and THANKS A LOT
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Christine
1/13/2018 09:34:51 am
This almost made me cry. It is like a good fairy coming to me, with a calming, reassuring aura, that immediately calms my racing mind and speeding heart of worry, and it sprinkles some fairy dust over me and tells me: Let it go, girl. Do not beat yourself up anymore, please, take a rest. You deserve to feel good, to be healthy and happy. You are set free. And then I stand up and feel lighter, I feel like something has been taken off my chest, and I can finally breathe again. So, thank you! So much!!!
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Gloria Thompson
4/7/2018 11:38:41 am
thank you I have been running around since january. reading everything... so confusing. i know this is said in gin's book but i finally heard it from this article
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Oh. My. Goodness. I sooooo needed to read this today! I joined the DDD group the other day and I was just about to post a question regarding, "How do I know if I'm eating too much, too little, etc. etc. etc???" and then lo and behold, I stumble upon this post. It was like you scooped me up into your lap, lovingly put your hand on my cheek and told me it was all going to be OK. Thank you for this. I needed it more than you'll ever know.
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Pat
12/28/2018 07:01:00 am
I could feel my whole body start to relax as I read your post. I need to read this every day.
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Liz
1/6/2019 03:32:14 am
This is a great post that says simply for only thing that has worked effortlessly for me, I have cheated and fallen off the wagon so many times, but the ONLY success I have found without too many rules is fasting. Love this way of being.
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Gin Stephens lives in Augusta, Georgia, where she has been following an intermittent fasting lifestyle since 2014. In addition to writing the #1 Amazon best-seller Delay, Don't Deny and the follow-up book Feast Without Fear, Gin is host of the Intermittent Fasting Stories podcast and co-host of The Intermittent Fasting Podcast, along with fellow intermittent faster and author, Melanie Avalon. Check out www.intermittentfastingstories.com and www.ifpodcast.com or search for the podcasts through your favorite podcast app. Archives
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