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Change is in the Air

3/29/2021

83 Comments

 
I made a big change today.

It’s HUGE.

Are you ready?

I just left Facebook.

Today I'll share from my heart openly with you, and my goal is to communicate both the decisions I have made and why I made them. 

Maybe my words will even inspire you to make some changes that you know in your heart that you need to make.   Maybe the decision you’re struggling with isn’t about Facebook or social media, but it’s about a relationship or habit or even a career that no longer serves you.  Just because we have a lot of time invested in a relationship, or a habit, or even a career, that doesn’t mean you’re stuck there forever once you see that it’s time to do something different.

Why in the world would I leave Facebook entirely?  It’s a long story.

Much of this story is a love story:  I have loved *much more* about my time on Facebook than I have *not* loved.  Facebook has been a large part of my life for so long, and it has even become my identity for these most recent years.  But, like many love stories, sometimes there is a dark side that no one sees but you, playing out behind closed doors.

Let’s start at the beginning:  the day I joined Facebook, which FB tells me was November of 2008.  That means I have spent almost THIRTEEN YEARS of my life checking in to Facebook on a daily basis.

In the beginning it was a little weird. Remember how we wrote everything in the third person?

“Gin is…cooking dinner for the family!”

“Gin is…sick with the flu.”

“Gin is…tired of talking in the third person about her daily activities.”

Facebook evolved over time, of course, and I recorded my life there, just like you probably did.  I can check my Facebook memories and see that on this day in 2009, I loved my new coffeemaker.  In 2010, my cat got lost in the attic and wouldn’t come back down.  In 2016 we were trying to trap a raccoon who we realized had been coming into our house through the cat door to eat cat food every night while we were sleeping.  

After being a casual Facebook user from 2008-2015, I started my first Facebook group in August of 2015 and everything started to change.  I had recently lost 75 pounds through intermittent fasting, so I created the One Meal a Day IF Lifestyle support group as a place where I could both give and receive support, connecting with others following a similar path.  That first week we had about 35 members, and I knew all of them personally.  I remember early conversations such as “Hey, what deodorant do you like?” because it was just a group of friends who happened to all follow intermittent fasting.

Over time, that group grew.  People started wandering in off of the Facebook street, which felt weird, but because I LOVE intermittent fasting, and I am a teacher at my core, we welcomed them into the group and they became part of the family.  Everyone wanted to know how to get started, but there wasn’t a book that had all of the most updated information all in one place-- so I wrote one.  That was the birth of Delay, Don’t Deny:  Living an Intermittent Fasting Lifestyle, which I self-published in 2016.

As the years went on, I started new Facebook groups and they grew and grew…by the end of 2020, we had a combined membership of about half-a-million people from all over the world.

Yep.  You read that correctly. From 35 people that I knew personally to almost 500K.

I managed the groups completely by myself from 2015 until 2018, when I brought on the first moderators to help out behind the scenes.  Before that time, I was trying to manage the groups in between my work as an elementary teacher.  I want you to imagine this scene:  I would be teaching away, and then Facebook notifications would start to go off on my phone because there was some kind of kerfuffle going on in the groups that needed my attention.  Maybe someone posted a meme that other people didn’t find to be funny, or something equally as dramatic.  These were the days before post approval was a thing, so sometimes it was like the Wild West in there.

I remember one day when there was some kind of blowup that made everyone mad, and one guy said, “I can’t believe Gin would allow this conversation.  I am leaving and I will never follow her again or read another of her books.” I hadn’t  been a part of the conversation or even seen it, because I was at work doing my job, but that day it all got really REAL, because I understood all of a sudden at that moment: people were holding me responsible for what went on even when I wasn’t there.  That added a layer of pressure that hadn’t been there before. Suddenly, it wasn’t quite as much fun as it had been.  That’s the day Facebook became my job rather than just a passion project.

Bringing on moderators in 2018 helped a lot. I breathed a sigh of relief, and it was amazing to have a team that was committed to helping others within the groups.  I could wake up each morning knowing that eyes from Asia, Australia, Egypt, and the UK had been on the groups while I slept.

I have formed lifelong friendships with this strong group of women (and a few men), and one of the best weeks of my life was when ten of them came to my house for a moderator retreat that was supposed to happen at Myrtle Beach, but Hurricane Dorian got in the way. Chad and I had just moved into our new house the week before and boxes were everywhere, but we pivoted, everyone changed their travel plans and came to Augusta instead of Myrtle Beach,  and we had what feels like a combination of the world’s best housewarming party and a week-long slumber party.

See? I told you…this is very much a love story.  I have fierce love for the moderator team, and we have formed some of the strongest and most genuine friendships of my life.  I have never known a more generous group of people.  Well, that’s not true.  I was a teacher for 28 years, and I knew a lot of generous-hearted teachers and school support staff over the years.  The moderators have the same selfless and generous nature that you find among teachers, health care workers, and other “helpers.”  I’m sure you know what I mean.

I also have that same kind of fierce love for the Facebook group members…all 500K of them.  We have celebrated health and weight loss victories, cheered successes, and cried together when members experienced personal tragedies that they shared with us. We helped members troubleshoot and we sent virtual hugs when they were down. And, we celebrated food and the freedom of living an intermittent fasting lifestyle.

But it wasn’t all like that.

My work on Facebook was always shiny on the outside, but it could be a completely different story behind closed doors.  I remember the shock I got one day when I woke up to a message from a group member who wasn’t happy with the way the group had been managed so she was lashing out at me. She said: “I am going to haunt you from ghost accounts until the day I die.”  That was shocking to read and also terrifying.

I got a lot of harsh messages from group members over the years, in fact. After reading them, I would get shaky and it always felt like an attack, but I shook it off, because I loved the work I was doing in the groups and drew strength from that.

Looking back on those few-but-impactful dark moments, and now looking forward to a Facebook-free life, I feel in some ways that I’ve gotten out of an abusive relationship, which sounds extreme but it’s my genuine emotion today.

The good FAR outweighed the bad, and that’s important for me to emphasize.  I am grateful for every lesson that I have learned. Even those scary moments:  they taught me strength and resilience.

In the fall of 2020, like many of you, I watched the documentary The Social Dilemma on Netflix, and it got the wheels turning, forcing me to re-examine what I was doing on Facebook and thinking about what a monstrous part of the day it consumes for some of us.  Suddenly, I knew I needed to make a change, but I had no idea what to do about it.  I had built something huge, and it felt a bit like the Hotel California:  I could never leave.  

Here’s what I know:  I’ve been on Facebook all day, every day, from the minute my eyes open to the minute my eyes close, Facebooking in between every activity of my day.  For YEARS.

Wake up. Facebook before my feet hit the floor. Shower. Facebook in the shower because my phone is water resistant. Coffee. Facebook while it’s brewing. Record a podcast. Check Facebook WHILE RECORDING. On and on and on until the end of the day. Check Facebook. Go to sleep. Dream about Facebook. (I wish I was kidding.)

When I think about it, I realize that I haven’t been fully present in my own life since 2015.  The business of Facebook never closes, not on weekends, or Christmas Day, or Thanksgiving Day, and not even when I go on vacation.  Facebook never sleeps.  It’s 365 and 24/7.   

Based on my self-reflection, I realized that leaving Facebook and forging a new path is the right thing for me to do.  It’s the healthiest thing I can do for myself.

I’m grateful for the connections I have made on Facebook and know that Facebook has been a large and meaningful part of my path. I am grateful for every positive moment Facebook has brought into my life, most of them through the intermittent fasting support groups.  I am also grateful for all of the positive moments that these groups have brought to group members.  I am humbled by the love and support I have seen group members give one another over the years.  It's been a beautiful thing to be a part of.  

So, what happens to the Facebook support groups if I am no longer on Facebook?  Thanks to the amazing Delay, Don’t Deny community moderators, we are not closing the main Delay, Don’t Deny Intermittent Fasting support group, found at https://www.facebook.com/groups/DelayDontDeny. There, the team will continue to provide moderator support for intermittent fasting in the daily “ask a moderator” thread within that group.  I won’t be there, but the moderators that our community already know and love will be.

Where will I be?

You will always be able to find me on my podcasts.  Listen to The Intermittent Fasting Podcast with cohost Melanie Avalon to hear us answer listener questions.  Find inspiration by listening to me chat with other intermittent fasters on the Intermittent Fasting Stories podcast.  You can even hear me talk about other parts of life on the Life Lessons podcast with cohost Sheri Bullock.

I’ll also be writing more books.  My latest is in the works now, and it isn’t about intermittent fasting. What?  You’ll see.  I’m pretty proud of this one.  Coming in early 2022, from St. Martin’s Press.

If you ever want to plug back in with me in an entirely new way, I’ve moved the Delay, Don’t Deny community to a new platform that’s completely off of Facebook.  Go to ginstephens.com/community to find out more.  It gives us many meaningful ways to connect, though in a different format than Facebook offers.  There’s a learning curve because it is different and new to us, but it already feels like home to me.

Also, and most importantly: it won’t be a place you are visiting every 10 minutes. You go once (or maybe twice) a day to catch up, get inspired, or find support.

In between, you live your life. ❤️

I’m visiting the DDD Community on my laptop rather than on my phone (well, most of the time...), because that keeps me from feeling the need to check it while cooking dinner, taking a shower, or having a conversation with my husband.  This forces me to be more intentional when it comes to my usage rather than checking in hundreds (thousands?) of times a day.

Within the DDD Community, you’ll be able to ask me questions personally in the Ask Gin group and I am mentoring new IFers in the 28-Day FAST Start group and in the 1st Year group.  That feels like home to me.

The new DDD Community is very much about connection and community, which is the most important thing in the world to me. We can be real and vulnerable, yet also laugh together, while enjoying an added layer of privacy that is absent on Facebook.   We have location-based groups where you can meet other IFers close to you, or even connect with other members when you are traveling.

I did not make the decision to leave Facebook lightly, and I understand that readers who may have been in the Facebook groups for years will feel a sense of sadness that the DDD community is changing.  I feel it,  too. Facebook has been MY home-base for all of these years.

Will I ever come back to Facebook?  Never say never, right?  For now, though, this feels right in my heart and soul.  Maybe I just need a break.  But maybe, just maybe, this is forever.
83 Comments
Sarah Nicholson
3/29/2021 03:20:43 am

Gina, You deserve to move on from Facebook, you've certainly gone above and beyond in your dedication to that group. God bless you in your new ventures, I know you will do well and prosper.

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Liz Kali
3/29/2021 04:47:46 pm

Total respect for this. Highly suggest reading Cal Newport's Digital Minimalism. Cant wait to see what's next for you!

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Kathy
3/29/2021 03:40:40 am

Congratulations on making the right move away from Facebook. Life on Facebook is not living when your on it all day. What freedom you must feel😀. You have done a wonderful job all these years enjoying the good and enduring the bad. Those who truly appreciate that will understand and be happy for you. Thanks for all your time, your books and podcasts, and for being so genuine. That’s my favorite thing about you.

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Roseann Petrie
3/29/2021 03:49:21 am

Dear Gin,
I've spent hours in the last couple of days working to reinstate my FB account since my account was suspended without cause..I finally thought it's time to say good bye. I will miss posting photos since it was a nice platform for my creative art. I'll find another way to display my art..
This is a tender moment for you, but like IF you will feel in control and free.
Bravo for you taking control of your journey..
Roseann

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Lanette
3/29/2021 04:11:00 am

Wow that is huge but not as much as what you've done over the years to teach and support those new to IF. And I totally get it! I commend you for wrestling with it, stepping away and moving on. I wish I could do that but my job is actually in social media and I manage several pages. The dark side is unbelievable, I've had a taste but not to the same level as you describe. So sorry you've had to put up with such pettiness, unkindness and all out evil. I love your books and will continue to follow your podcasts and blog. I'm very curious about this new book; can't wait for the announcement. And I wish you the best! With much love.

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Cheryle Knight
3/29/2021 04:31:08 am

This does make me sad but I do understand and support your decision. You have done so much for us and have helped me personally in my own weight journey and even members of my family too. I have joined your new site and I’m trying slowly to figure out how it works. I’ll be waiting for your new book too. I do listen occasionally to the podcast but I admit because of a hearing loss from a tumor it’s difficult. Thanks for all your time and dedication.

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Cynthia Lockington
3/29/2021 04:31:21 am

I “left” FB in early 2017. Eventually created a new account (no “friends”) just for DDD and a couple Keto groups. As soon as DDD Social Network started I joyfully joined. I’m still on FB but barely and, yes, life is better.

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Sharon
3/29/2021 04:38:51 am

Totally behind you on this, Gin!!! Good move!!!

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Judie Robinson
3/29/2021 05:04:04 am

Gin.... I understand completely. Quick question. I share lots of pictures of family on fb. That and my groups are what is important to me. But I do feel tied to it. Do you have a favorite area to share things with family that is not fb related?

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Donna Bridger
3/29/2021 03:29:11 pm

Hi Judie,
My daughter in law uses an app called Family Album and my niece uses one called Photo Circle. People have to be invited to join in order to access the photos. It allows them to share tons of photos of their precious children while keeping the kids photos off of social media. It is much more enjoyable to get an "alert" on my phone to check Family album and all I see are adorable photos and videos of my grandchild!

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Melanie Belz
3/29/2021 05:18:21 am

So beautifully said Gin. I wouldn’t have expected anything less. Your words speak from the heart and I’m sure you thought about this for such a long time. I am excited for you and will see you over on the DDDsocial network. Lots of Love

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Hollie Johnson
3/29/2021 05:53:05 am

I'm right behind you! I joined the DDD network because it will allow me to get support on this journey OFF Facebook! I am currently using the FB marketplace a lot while preparing to move. But my fiancé and I have both decided that after our wedding in June, we are both unplugging from FB. It's definitely a time waster, and I want to live with more intention. Be present for my life moving forward.

I just finished reading Fast, Feast, Repeat. I can't believe I'm fasting clean and drinking black coffee!

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Deb
3/29/2021 05:53:51 am

Thank you Gin!
I think you are a brave women. I am writing my second book, it’s about letting go so we can grow. But I just want to think you for all you’ve done for me, I’ve not lost my weight but I will, I now know more about my health then ever and how my body works, all thanks to you!
God bless you
DEborah Dutton

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Mimi
3/29/2021 05:58:43 am

Thanks for the indepth explanation, makes sense.

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Mary Gustafrson
3/29/2021 06:01:57 am

I wish you well on your new adventure. I feel more trusting on the new site. You are Blessed with great success and are helping so many. always remember SWSWSWN. {which stands for Some will Some won't So what Next]

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Kathi Black
3/29/2021 06:14:33 am

Facebook is an addiction to most people. You are correct in deciding to leave. People say things on Facebook they would never say in person. It can be so hateful and frustrating. I completely understand your reasons for leaving. I love the new DDD social group and have also found I spend less time on Facebook now. I hope you find more peace and better sleep. Cheers to your new group 😁

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Cathleen E
3/29/2021 06:21:21 am

Gin, I know this was a hard decision and I appreciate your transparency. You’ve done a great service for so many and it is amazing how cruel some individuals can be in the relative anonymity of social media. I’m on your new network although I don’t visit it as often as I do FB. Just haven’t developed the new habit yet. But, like you, I am trying to spend less time on social media because of the incredible time suck it can be. I am confident this move will give you some peace of mind, and your new network should be a more intimate and manageable group. Cheers to you and to your new endeavors.

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Maeve Sullivan
3/29/2021 06:34:19 am

I totally get it, Gin! I had the same reaction to seeing The Social Dilemma. Haven’t had the courage to leave yet, but it is definitely a personal goal.

I’ve heard there’s some “Facebook withdrawal” to get through when you first “quit”... hang in there!

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Laurie Lewis link
3/29/2021 06:42:25 am

Dear Gin, Your courage, wisdom, clarity, and generosity will stay with me always. What you’ve done for us is an immeasurable gift. My heart is full. Thank you. With deep appreciation, Laurie

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Eveline Kaner
3/29/2021 06:54:21 am

Congratulations - you are a bighearted woman and I wish you the best in life. Congratulations in your new adventures. You have done your best for everyone on this journey. Well done and blessings.

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Kathy Holle
3/29/2021 07:16:50 am

Good for you!

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Patrick Heinske
3/29/2021 07:18:55 am

Just wanted to say *hugs*

Thanks to you, I have lost most of the extra physical weight that was making me unhealthy and less attractive, and using ways I can stick to 90% of the time.

I can understand the battles and heartaches you suffered and why you need to leave them behind.

I don't know that I need the logistical support enough anymore to pay for a membership at the new site, but I wish you unbridled success and happiness with it. You have earned that and continue to do so.

Thank you for doing what you do.

*hugs*
Patrick Heinske
Garner, NC

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Trudy
3/29/2021 07:39:29 am

It's the behind the scenes thing that many of us don't realize is so involved. I really appreciate how well the groups are managed and how positive they are.

I started to feel a sense of relief reading this. Not that I'm ready to leave Facebook, but I am ready to spend less time there. I'm already on the new platform and really enjoy it. The new platform reminds me of the early days of chat rooms and groups. Very excited to hear about this new book coming out next year!

My friend recently invited me to a garden group on Facebook which I thought would be fun. But there is no way that an hour after a post is made I'm going to go read 600 comments! I left the group after one week.

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Nancy Carver
3/29/2021 07:45:41 am

Dear Gin,
I understand every thought, emotion and word you have expressed.

I am on the DDD IF page, the ADF page and the Senior's page. I joined the DDD Social network page for a month. Why only a month? Well...I learned about IF from your book DDD 16 months ago. I have been doing IF since. I am down 37 lbs. and have about 40 more to go. I wanted to see how much I would participate. I am tiring of finding myself thinking my value, can be found on Facebook.

A huge part of my soul is ready to be done reading about "it" and just call it my life and keep fasting on. I realize though, I need - NEED to stay connected somehow.

I work on that daily. I assess and evaluate, and grow as I age. Life, it is all about living free from my strong draw to food, my choice of poison when used incorrectly.

Gin, the Lord gave me my life and eternal life. YOU have helped teach me to live my best life with IF and for that, I will be forever grateful.

I applaud your struggles, your successes and going forward. You do you!!!

Thank you,
Nancy

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Alexis
3/29/2021 07:47:55 am

Wow, I wish you all the best, sounds like it will be such a positive change in your life. I will join the new network very soon, thanks for all you’ve given to the world. 💙

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Faith
3/29/2021 08:54:03 am

Sounds like you did the smart thing for you, your family and your mental health. I'll continue to enjoy listening to your podcasts. May the Lord Jesus bless you in all your endeavors!! Thank you for all you've done and continue to do for us IFers! Changed my life!

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Shirley
3/29/2021 09:48:55 am

Gin!
1. Thank you for so much, but specifically for giving me a chance to engage in life again by losing weight, getting healthier and shifting my perspective on food.
2. Congratulations on making your mental health the priority. Nobody else will do that for you.
3. Best wishes on the new platform (I’m gradually finding my rhythm there) and your newest book (I’m excited for the release!).
4. I’m sorry that people have hurt you when it is clear your motives have always been to help others. I have learned (the hard way also) that people who are unhappy with themselves find it easy to lash out at someone they (incorrectly) think is doing something wrong, not ever seeing the generosity or selflessness that has taken place. You cannot change that person, but you can rightly not be ok with it, as it truly is “their problem”. It is not easy, but it is necessary for our own peace. I pray you are able to let it go and find peace.
5. I hope you always remember the gazillions of positive comments..and the people behind those comments that owe you so much.
Sincerely,
Shirley ♥️

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Lulu Rose
3/29/2021 09:59:58 am

Well said!

I, like many others, look forward to the mobile version improving to a similar usability level as we would find on a PC or laptop.

Such a great initiative and I'm excited to be a part of it.

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Robbee Caseldine
3/29/2021 10:34:00 am

You have moved through it all with Grace! I know you will continue to do so with all your new endeavors! You are an inspiration and shining light for so many. Even when darkness is thrown your way you shine!!!

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Sunshine
3/29/2021 11:13:09 am

Gin,

I was thinking how I've spent money on different ways to improve my life: yoga videos, kitchen gadgets, books, outdoor equipment... And at first I was sad that you were starting a website that wasn't "free" to use. But you have a group in the social network where you personally answer questions, and that alone is worth it, from a product standpoint. And, you have saved me hundreds of dollars on food, not to mention health care costs.

I literally owe my life to you and likely my marriage because intermittent fasting has made me a happier person. It was shortly after I started clean fasting that my husband became "smitten" with me. And because of you, my husband no longer has diabetes or gout symptoms and is also much happier.

So, after a few days of contemplation, I became a lifetime member of the Delay Don't Deny Social Network. I have no regrets.

Thank you for my life and the lives of so many others. You are my hero.

Sunshine

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Jennifer
3/29/2021 11:27:30 am

Dear Gin,

I am so happy you made a decision that is right for you! You have done some much to help the IF/DDD community and we are so thankful for the countless hours, days, months, and years you spent keeping us motivated and educated. I have joined the new community and looks forward to connecting with fellow fasters. Thank you for all you have done to change our lives!!

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Terri Lynn
3/29/2021 12:56:25 pm

Gin, I am so thankful for the love and support I have received through you and the FB groups, through the ups and downs of my own IF journey. I have never felt anything but encouraged by the members there. We have not had to experience the dark side that you have or the weight of carrying the load of responsibility that you have. I truly hope you will feel freedom after leaving FB and taking back your time each day.
I am grateful we have this new platform to share and encourage one another and we have you to thank for that as well. You have changed so many lives for the better and you deserve nothing but the best.

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Kristina Link
3/29/2021 02:00:40 pm

It is the right thing to do. I am already in the DDDSocialNetwork and love the format. Glad you are moving forward with something that is more under your control.

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Mary Jo Epperson
3/29/2021 03:13:43 pm

Congratulations to you! I hope the time this gives you will result in many more great things, like your books and podcasts. You deserve to get to be present in your own life... welcome to the freedom!!!

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Amy Jo Holcomb
3/29/2021 03:24:01 pm

Gosh, I don’t blame you, Gin. At least three times a week, I almost take the leap myself. I may see you on the new platform; I have not decided yet. I feel like I don’t need the IF support anymore, really, (and I thank you for all you’ve done for me so far, truly!) but I love interacting and helping others just like you do. I’m a teacher, too :)

God bless you!

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Grace Morris
3/29/2021 03:26:16 pm

Like you, I decided back in the fall to give up FB. I, too, was influenced by the Social Dilemma documentary. Additionally, I found my FB time was causing me more stress and agitation than pleasure. My FB experience changed from enjoying a pleasant exchange of family/friends’ pictures and happenings to a divisive sharing of contentious current events. The only drawback to deleting my account was not being able to access the DDD group posts. But now I can! I’m so happy to be a part of the new DDD social network!
Thanks for all you do, Gin. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors!

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Catherine Albers
3/29/2021 03:29:18 pm

I am so happy to hear your are finding a new way to connect with the community you created and still love but in a way that meets your real life needs better. You have given so so much to us all, I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself.

I’ll see you over at the new DDD social network.

Thank you for always sharing so much of yourself with us. ❤️

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Cheryl Polk
3/29/2021 03:38:00 pm

Way to go, Gin!! 100% the right direction! You are the best!! See you on DDD!! Xo

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Ifechi
3/29/2021 03:39:18 pm

Dear Gin..i thank God every day for bringing you into my life. IF has lifted me out of a perpetual diet cycle filled with depression and frustration.
I am so sorry for all the dark stuff you endured while trying to serve and guide 500k plus IFers on FB.
I am very happy that you're moving forward and I am excited to move with.

With hugs and kisses,
Ifechi
Lagos, Nigeria

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Deanna Lindstrom
3/29/2021 03:42:28 pm

Oh Gin-I am totally not surprised by this and can’t believe it’s taken you this long! I’ve been with your since 2017 and have long thought “how does she do all this moderating and have a family?!?!” I’m proud of you and impressed at this decision-you go girl!!! ❤️❤️❤️

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Jyl Boehms
3/29/2021 03:43:46 pm

Good for you Gin. Another decision that brings feelings of being free. Freedom. You’ve taught me how to be free of the diet mindset and I am forever grateful. I need to get over to your Social Network.... ♥️

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Kelly
3/29/2021 03:56:46 pm

I applaud you Gin, not only for doing what is right for you and penning such a powerful post about it but also for creating and enduring all that has come with running your groups. I will be forever thankful that you did. If not for that I would not have the knowledge about IF that I do. I have just joined your social network as I am minimizing FB too. Looking forward to the more intimate platform! Wishing you the best in all you do!

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Sue Messer
3/29/2021 03:59:19 pm

Gin, Your words are sincere and your heart is in the right place. It certainly sounds like the best decision for you. I joined your DDD Social Network a couple weeks ago while on vacation. I haven't posted much yet but I am exploring the site and look forward to being a part of it. Thank you for being transparent & to your moderators for giving you this much needed freedom.

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Ashley Clark
3/29/2021 04:01:21 pm

Gin, I'm THRILLED for you!! Best wishes for the new platform!

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Liza Marmo
3/29/2021 04:08:22 pm

Gin,
You have changed many lives including mine. I am forever grateful to you for that. As for your decision, I cannot blame you one bit. Part of our journey is being able to care for ourselves. Facebook while it’s helpful in many ways it’s also detrimental in other ways. Many hide behind the screen and use it to abuse and berate others. Not good! I saw what you likely got through when you announced your new platform. I totally support you in what you need in your life. My plan is to continue following the existing group and planning to join your new platform. The best to you in your endeavors!

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Julie
3/29/2021 04:26:26 pm

Congratulations Gin! So happy for you! After watching the Social Dilemma when it was released on Netflix, it changed us to our core. I’m working on eliminating Facebook. My husband already deleted all his social media. 😳. I’m next. I was so excited to see you made a new platform in which I will be joining soon. My husband said “buy DDD platform subscription today if it means deleting fb now”. 😊 It’s hard leaving friends, family and groups behind, but as my husband pointed out, it causes me more stress and anxiety than happiness I receive from it. That shocked me. So, I’ll see you in your new platform soon. Enjoy everyday!

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Candace Wollenberg
3/29/2021 04:38:51 pm

Good for you Gin!! You have helped so many, including me and it's time to make a move that puts you first. I am proud of you for cutting the cord. Thank you for explaining your decision so we didn't feel abandoned; you didn't owe us that but did it anyway. Your influence will never leave me and I offer the biggest thank you for all you have and continue to do in the world of health. BIG HUGS!!

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Katie
3/29/2021 04:56:50 pm

You rock and I admire you!

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Debbie Sexton
3/29/2021 05:09:47 pm

Good for you! I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t make me a little sad to see you go; however, you’ve inspired me to consider making that same choice. I’ve been spending way too much time on social media of late. I wish you much continued success, and I know the sky is the limit for you! ❤️

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Nikki G
3/29/2021 05:11:42 pm

So proud of you, Gin! That took courage. I have often marveled at the amount of time it must take you to be so present in your groups. You have changed thousands upon thousands of lives (mine included), but you have sacrificed so much to do so. I applaud your decision and it motivates me to recalibrate my own time spent on Facebook. Looking forward to your next book, and always so thankful that you took the time to share.

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Ann Jones
3/29/2021 05:17:49 pm

I get it. I, too, feel like I spend too much time on Facebook and I hate when some random person attacks me who has no clue who I am.
I am so grateful for the last 2 1/2 years that I have been supported by your FB groups and you.
I have joined the new platform and I think that’s what I will check out once or twice a day.
I’m glad your support hasn’t gone away... just changed your address.

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Julie Cooper
3/29/2021 05:42:44 pm

I am happy you get to break free from being ‘on’ 24/7. That is no life for you and all your other interests.
I have joined dddsocialnetwork.com and it’s a great place to be. Everyone who has joined, wants to be there and supportive of others. No drama, just support.
I’m looking forward to reading your new book. Congratulations on your new network and best wishes for all your future endeavors! 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

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Sue
3/29/2021 06:00:01 pm

Dear Gin,
I have seen how much time your Facebook job took in your life. And I thank you for all of us whose lives were improved and even saved (I used to be on many many meds) by the time you put in on that app. You always make great decisions! Love ya. Sue.

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Dee Holtz link
3/29/2021 06:05:43 pm

Good for you! I joined the new site a week or so ago and am not compelled like FB to check it all the time. I get a digest of the day's posts and that leads me to my conversations.

Quite frankly, I'm sick of FB as well. I could have written the same description of 2009 to now. I'm just about over it (though I still love Candy Crush to just mess around). It's also the only way I stay in touch with family far away on a regular basis. So I don't know.....it's a double-edged sword.

But you found what is right for you and that's great. I'm sure I and many others will as well. Cheers to the new site. I'm happy to be a part of it. :)

Dee

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Becky
3/29/2021 06:09:14 pm

Great move and very good points. You echo some of my same feelings. Can’t wait to join the network. Sounds a lot better!

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Sherri Frost
3/29/2021 06:12:46 pm

Gin,
Thank you for your tireless work all these years! I am very grateful to you as are your many, many followers from Facebook to this new platform. I’m an all or nothing person and I immediately joined as a lifetime member.

I look forward to being a part of wherever and whatever you choose to do, you are a true gift to so many of us. Keep it going Gin, we’re following and learning and sharing the beautiful news with people in our lives. God Bless You!

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Christine link
3/29/2021 06:17:26 pm

Gin,
Thank you for all you’ve done for so very many people...never forget THAT!!
Best to you in your new endeavors!!

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Joanne A.
3/29/2021 06:28:42 pm

It’s so appalling to me that people would reach out and attack you personally via FB messages. That has to be a very scary experience.

I will continue to listen to the podcasts and follow the groups. But Gin, good for you for finding another way and taking control of your life and your time. I hope it gives you peace of mind.

Take the good experiences and leave the rest!

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Stacy Wade
3/29/2021 06:29:56 pm

Gin,
Just love you to pieces! Self Love and Care are truly hard for a wife and mother and entrepreneur. We always seem to take care of everyone else first! I applaud you and your tough decision. This is Women's History month and you my dear sweet and kind soul are going to be recognized for all your hard work!
I am a Founding Member of DDD Social Network. I am so excited to read post everyday. I need the encouragement some days to Delay in opening my eating window!
I am a National Leadership trainer.
And everyday I learn something new. I shared your Life Lesson podcast with my team on Sleep. They all had great take-a-ways.
By the way, I am thinking about joining Women in Network /WIN
https://womeninnetwork.com/
Have you check them out? Have you thought about speaking engagements? I know you would be Fantastic!
Remember to always love yourself first!!!

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Deborah Watson link
3/29/2021 06:33:29 pm

Thank you for blowing this up. Sad that I'm still trying to get to my goal but I have faith i will get there. I'm one of your nurse's that gets the science so I'm going to keep living this lifestyle for ever. I'll see you on social network site. I hope to be on your podcast one day. It's definitely a goal. I'm listening to one as I type. Love your podcasts! God bless you and you do you! So grateful for the knowledge!!

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Colleen Cox
3/29/2021 06:59:39 pm

I've often reflected on the time commitment that FB groups require. Your decision has given me food for thought. I'm glad you explained your decision process. The social media sphere can be brutal to thought leaders and regular folk trying to share new thoughts and ideas. So many know-it-alls and some are downright mean.

I want you to know how much I appreciate you! I will still hear your zesty laugh and meaningful insights on your podcasts.

Peace and love!

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Kathy
3/29/2021 07:20:43 pm

Thank you so much for all you've done for all of us. I support your decision, because we all need to do what's best for us: body, mind & spirit.

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Laural F
3/29/2021 07:37:13 pm

Gin,

I’ve always wondered how you and the moderators manage, and I’m sorry to hear that the last years have been so difficult.

But I’m not sorry you started. Your story and your willingness to put yourself out there are inspiring. And you’ve empowered us to change our lives. Thank you! I am eternally grateful.

See you on the DDD Social Network. I’m happy to support the woman who taught me how to Clean Fast.

Best of luck for all your future endeavors.

Laural

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Kedra
3/29/2021 07:44:45 pm

Very eloquently stated! I'm so happy that you took time to reflect on what you needed and what would serve you best. While I certainly appreciate everything that you've done in each of your Facebook groups; I look forward to joining your new platform even more now that I've read this blog. It sounds like you put in a lot of hard work and it's going to be an exceptional site. I plan to check in once or twice a day and use the rest of the time to live my life offline. All the best to you!

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Nancy
3/29/2021 09:10:18 pm

I’m proud of you!! Well done for being brave to make decisions that will enhance your wellbeing!

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Leslie McIntosh
3/29/2021 09:54:37 pm

Gin,

I 100% support your decision and thank you so much for your contributions to helping millions live better lives. I’ve only been an IFer for six months but they have been the most impactful six months of my 54 years. I have already joined the new community and appreciate all that you did to establish and build a place for all of us to build community. Thank you!!

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Mary Hamilton
3/29/2021 10:14:16 pm

People come into your life for a reason. You gave me the strength and guidance to change my life, as well as the knowledge needed to do so. Some people don’t stay forever, but what I have gained from you will be with me “forever”. May peace be with you always as you follow your path.

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Jennifer S.
3/29/2021 10:50:18 pm

Dear Gin,

I really believe you have made the right decision. You have worked hard and given so much of yourself to others that it’s time now to bow out from some things and put yourself and your needs first. I have often wondered how you have coped with all that you do and was actually worried about you when I read the other day that you are writing another book and had to extend your deadline. Reading your blog was pretty much how I imagined things would be behind the scenes and it’s not something you could continue with. i joined the new platform a week ago and have already started to wean myself off Facebook. I loved being part of the FB groups since September 2017 and have learnt and gained so much from them, but it’s time for a change and a new outlook and the new platform is helping with that. I have already changed a lot of my habits for the better and have been more productive. I feel like a new person. One thing I want to do regularly is to listen to the Podcasts. I haven’t listened to many because I was always too busy on FB. I am looking forward to your new book, no matter what it’s aboùt (though I wonder if it’s a subject you were thinking about quite a while ago....I won’t mention it here, I‘ll just wait and see). Thank you for everything Gin, and for the chance for all of us to move forward together and continue to grow,

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Diane
3/29/2021 11:38:13 pm

Gin, What a beautifully written, insightful, post! I already joined the DDD social network and will continue on my journey with you! So glad you’re doing what’s right for you and your decision alone, proves what a truly unique and
inspirational lady you are. Wishing you all the very best.

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Mathilde
3/30/2021 02:59:47 am

As always, you did it with explanations and love. You are such an amazing role model !
Thank you because you lifted the guilt of not being present "enough" on the new DDD social network... We are all humans after all, even you super Gin ! :-)

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Carrie
3/30/2021 03:33:59 am

Holy cow! Just two days ago I started downloading and deleting all my pictures from Facebook because I, too, have had it. Just the few whacks I've received and watched in shock as others, who made rather innocent or honest comments, were trounced, have forced me to cut this obsession out of my life. I am dragging out my exit, only to ensure I get all the files I want first, especially pictures and conversations with my dad, who passed in 2015. The plan is to delete my account by next week. Gin, I sincerely cannot imagine what it was like for you. As usual, you are a trailblazer and consummate teacher. Thank you for sharing your experience and leading the way, as you have done time and again!

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Jessica Nin
3/30/2021 03:56:34 am

As someone who has taken many breaks from social media throughout the years I get it! Your presence has been amplified more than mine was or needed to be and I can only imagine the toll. Thank you for the new platform and can’t wait to hear all about your new book.

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Lisa
3/30/2021 05:19:42 am

Gin, can we talk teacher to teacher? This post takes a lot for me. I’m the “social media-shy” type. I’ve been a believer since January of 2019 when I read Delay, Don’t Deny, but never spoke up on FB. I would just read posts and soak it all in. However, I believe in giving credit where credit is due. Now that you’ve moved on, it’s time for me to tell you. You are my hero. You saved my life. You are inspirational in ways you’ll never know. Thank you for your tireless efforts. They do not go unnoticed or unappreciated. I’ve listened to every podcast and learn something new with each one. I joke with my husband that I would rather meet you than any other celebrity, just to give you a hug and give you my gratitude. I prayed my entire life for a lightbulb moment...you know, the type of moment where I could have a healthy lifestyle and still live. I could never find that balance until I read your books. You gave that lightbulb moment to me, so THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart! I’ve purchased many copies of both of your books and passed them out to help support you. Good for you for doing what is right. You are using your gifts, well done!! (Did I say thank you?) 😊

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Kim Miles
3/30/2021 05:21:15 am

Oh Gin, this is absolutely amazing and beautiful. Thanks so much for always sharing your heart. Although I in know way have had and endured the amount of responsibility that you have for years, I too found myself spending way to much time in what I came to see as a toxic relationship in my life, so my husband and I both chose to leave Facebook in January, 2021. My ddd support group was one of the only things I’ve missed.

Thank you for taking the time and having the courage to step away, and also for creating the new network. Sometimes I look back in regret at so much of my life that I tried to experience through looking at other people’s lives , but I can’t stay there. I have moved on and am attempting to enjoy and experience my life to the fullest in real time from now on.

I am so thankful for you and glad that I “met” you in January, 2020. I know that you have changed my life for the better, one day at a time.

Sincere love and best wishes for your continued journey,

Kim

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Deana
3/30/2021 06:14:54 am

Congratulations on your decision definitely is the right move. FB has become an unpleasant place. You are an amazing women and introduced me to a new way of living healthy. Thank you so much! I can’t wait to read your new book.

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Shelley Singleton
3/30/2021 06:39:22 am

Gin....you are amazing and I love your transparency...you don’t owe anyone an explanation, but it is appreciated regardless. You have positively impacted the lives of so many people...myself included. I’m glad that you are taking care of yourself in this way and it is absolutely the right thing to do, in my opinion. You need to live your life and not be consumed by FB...we can all learn from your decision. I think the DDD network is a perfect compromise...still maintains some connection, but without being consumed by it every minute of every day. Enjoy life, FB free and thank you for everything you’ve done and continue to do!!!

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Jo Shively
3/30/2021 08:09:56 am

Good for you!... best of luck and all your knowledge that has helped me in my journey!

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Carla
3/30/2021 09:01:28 am

Good for you! I love your transparency and your heart. Thanks for setting such a positive example in prioritizing what’s best for you and your family.

Catch you on the podcasts!!

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Stephanie Sefried
3/30/2021 12:44:56 pm

Gin... 100% support you! I had this almost exact journey. Watched the same Netflix doc and started really asking myself Q's about social media. I began to see how manipulated the entire social media world is and at the hands of people I'm not so sure about. It frightened me. Finally I realized, same as you, the amount of my life that had the social media strong hold over it. In Jan I said no more FB and I have not missed it one day. I did not delete it, but I have a commitment to never check, post, or even scroll it whatsoever. DDD was a godsend as it made me feel more convicted than ever. Thanks for all you do to inspire us out in the world trying be our best self. You are a blessing!!!!

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Barb
3/30/2021 04:10:36 pm

Gin, this is GREAT news! I also got off FB a few months ago, after many years. My biggest reason was I didn’t want to give them my business anymore. And I didn’t want to just put my account “to sleep” because before you knew it, I would be back to checking it daily, and it was too much of a time waster, and too much negativity. But I knew I would very much miss the “daily IF shot in the arm” that I needed from the groups. I’ve been hoping there would be another place these groups could form, and now, HERE YOU ARE! Thanks so much! I can’t wait to explore the new website. Thank you, and congrats!!

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Bronwyn Kerr
4/1/2021 01:35:21 am

I am so sad to hear of the nasty messages you have received. I also follow a horsemanship page and she posted something earlier this week that many people found controversial. She is being quite vulnerable about her reactions to the awful messages she sometimes receives and it is truly frightening to see that she regularly needs counselling and sometimes needs police involvement! I applaud your decision.

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Joan J Smith
4/8/2021 02:37:22 pm

Gin, thank you for writing Delay, Don't Deny. It's the best $10 I've ever spent and now feel free to cut loose. Best wishes to you and your endeavors.

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Fua
4/16/2021 09:36:26 pm

I took a 2 month break from FB and was surprised to see the page gone! I never thought of the stress that managing the pages. I only thought of mine just logging on! Haha!! Best of luck to you!

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    Gin Stephens lives in Augusta, Georgia, where she has been following an intermittent fasting lifestyle since 2014. In addition to writing the #1 Amazon best-seller Delay, Don't Deny and the follow-up book Feast Without Fear, Gin is host of the Intermittent Fasting Stories podcast and co-host of The Intermittent Fasting Podcast, along with fellow intermittent faster and author, Melanie Avalon.  Check out www.intermittentfastingstories.com and www.ifpodcast.com or search for the podcasts through your favorite podcast app.   

    Gin earned a Doctor of Education degree in Gifted and Talented Education in 2009 from Northcentral University and a Masters degree in Natural Sciences from The University of South Carolina.  She taught elementary school for 28 years before retiring to focus on IF full-time.  Since Gin also has two adult sons, one husband, and four cats, she is busy. Thank goodness for intermittent fasting, which makes her life easier!

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